How to Create Big Love and Stop Selling Yourself Short
In this heart-opening episode, Dr. Diana Hill invites you to step into big love—the kind of deeply nourishing, energizing relationships that align with your values and genius without compromising your authenticity. Through personal stories, scientific insights, and actionable tools, Diana guides you to explore how you can get the friendships, partnerships, and connections you truly want—without shrinking yourself or playing small.
What You'll Learn:
Why strong relationships are vital to your physical and emotional health.
What neuroscience tells us about love, connection, and social pain.
How to identify and use your relationship genius.
The importance of aligning with your core relationship values.
Where you may be selling yourself short—and how to shift.
How to open up to positive energizers and set wise boundaries with depleters.
How to focus your energy to cultivate relationships that uplift you and others.
Wise Effort Method in Relationships:
Get Curious
Discover your relationship genius
Clarify your relationship values
Explore how you may be selling yourself short
Open Up
Welcome positive energizers into your life
Release energy-depleting dynamics with compassion
Embrace the synergy of mutual uplift
Focus Your Energy
Water the seeds of goodness in others
Care for your own needs
Let your relationships be what they are
Key Practices Mentioned:
Create a Relationship Map (spiral diagram of positive and negative energizers)
Name your Voldemorts—and start letting go
Build a Genius Advisory Board of friends and collaborators
Use Metta Meditation to soften around hard feelings
Practice bold love—let others know what you see and appreciate in them
About Dr. Diana Hill
Diana Hill, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, international trainer, and speaker helping people direct their energy toward what matters most. Through her Wise EffortMethod, she helps people play big in their careers, health, and relationships. Host of the podcast Wise Effort with Dr. Diana Hill and author of The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, The ACT Daily Journal,I Know I Should Exercise But, and her upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives. She has been featured on NPR, the Wall Street Journal, Woman’s Day, Real Simple Magazine, Mindful Magazine, and numerous other media channels.
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