Endings: How to End Things That Are Difficult to End
What do you do when you know something needs to end, but you can't quite let go? This episode gives you the psychological science behind why endings are so hard, plus a six-step practice for moving through them with more ease. Drawing on the concept of the "action crisis" — that push-pull of doubt, confusion, and rumination we feel when we're clinging to something past its time — Diana walks through what she learned by ending something in her life, and the concrete steps that helped her let go and begin again.
Listen and Learn:
Why endings feel so hard — and the four signs you're stuck in an "action crisis"
A six-step practice for letting go: from "so be it, and so it is" to honoring what continues, to giving yourself permission to begin anew
Why getting the "kitten" doesn't mean replacing the "cat" — and why that's okay
How a simple ritual can turn a hard ending into an honored one
Listen to the full episode now — and if you're moving through an ending of your own, share it with someone who needs the reminder that beginnings always follow.
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About Dr. Diana Hill:
Dr. Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, executive consultant, and international trainer who helps leaders and teams navigate complexity without precedent. Her Wise Effort Method addresses a problem most high performers recognize immediately: the drive that got them here is now working against them. A leading voice in the evolution of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, she co-leads ACT BootCamp with ACT founder Dr. Steven Hayes, trains the trainers, and serves as an instructor for the University of California's Climate Resilience Initiative. She has led executive retreats and intensives for leadership teams including Deckers Brands, Lightfully Behavioral Health, and YPO. Diana is the author of Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most and three other books, hosts the Wise Effort podcast, and has been featured on NPR, CNN, and The Wall Street Journal. With over 20 years of yoga and meditation practice, she teaches from embodied experience rather than theory alone — her sessions are experiential and transformational.
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